Other people. We love them, care for them, depend on them. We think about them 24/7. But when do you take time to focus on you?
Looking inside and checking in with yourself can be a scary task. What will our bodies actually tell us? Do we really want to listen? Are we happy or pretending to be happy?
Scarier still is living our lives without being fully in control of our own driving seat. And there is only one way to take control back. We have to focus on ourselves.
For this weeks 5 top tips on a Tuesday I am bringing to you 5 ways you can focus on yourself. Just small wee tweaks/ ideas to get you thinking about how much time you actually spend thinking about YOU.
Mindfulness is seen as a buzz word these days, but it really should have a place in your life. You can do this through meditation, taking a walk, or simply just taking time to check in with you and your thoughts – I like to do it in the bath! Knowing who you are and what you feel, taking time out to assess a situation or problem or just using some time to yourself to stay calm and positive can work wonders for your mental and physical health. Just a couple of minutes each day where you are the priority.
See the present
Too often we are living in the past or living for the future. Make sure you take time to look at everything around you right this second. We can all have dreams and goals and we can all reminisce about good times in the past but what counts is right now. You in this moment. Really think about what you can do right at this moment to help you smile, laugh and be happy.
Be willing and able to say no
People pleaser? Manic schedule? Social butterfly that’s wilting ever so slightly? No can be your friend. Assess what really matters to you – know your priorities for the day, week, month. Don’t see no as a weakness, see the word as a strength. No means you come first.
Allocate time for yourself
Finding it hard to get some you time in? Schedule it in. Try and find a time each day that is just for you. It could be 10 minutes before bed where you can enjoy a chapter of your book undisturbed. It could be a short walk at lunchtime to get some fresh air. Then find a time each week for an activity you enjoy. Yes I schedule in CrossFit at 6am 4 times a week but that by no means has to be a framework for your time. Maybe Thursday nights you meet up with a friend for a glass of wine or catch up with your latest TV show. Just knowing you have a set time where you are number one can feel so empowering.
See your good health as number one
Others dependent on you? Your job, family, friends? Feel like you can’t put your health first because they need your time more? It’s a tough one, but let me tell you, if you are healthy, strong and full of energy you will have the ability to help. You will have the strength to do everything you want to do within the relationship. Putting your health first is a selfless act. Focusing on you means you have the ability and means to be depended upon.
Do you take time to focus on you?
How good are you with allocating yourself personal time on a daily basis?
Do you have the ability to say no?