Do you allow yourself to be human?
I know we are all individuals and should be treated as such. We have our own thoughts, ambitions, lifestyles and dreams. But deep down we are all the same. We are all human beings.
Our bodies have similar traits. Our minds have the same tendencies. Our programming, if you will, is so in line. There are many things we could connect ourselves together about.
For today’s ‘5 Top Tips on a Tuesday’ I want to break away from the details and get down to some of the deep set connections that we all have. Factors that connect us all as human beings. Sometimes seeing the bigger picture of humanity can help us hone in on what really matters and how we deal with various situations in our lives.
Humans make mistakes
We have all be there, as a transition into adulthood, learning the fundamental lesson that we will all make mistakes. Big or small, sometimes we will take the wrong path. But how we deal with the acknowledgement of the mistake is key. ‘To err is human, to forgive divine’… so why don’t we forgive ourselves for the mistakes we make? Why do we find it easier to forgive others than we do ourselves? Next time you make a mistake, own it, learn from it and move on.
Humans like to play
Like every other species out there, we have a desire within us to play. What you define as ‘play’ is up to you – it could be experimenting in the kitchen, playing with your puppy or kids, joining a club, frolicking on the beach (or in the bedroom…), or even, like I did a few weeks back, going to your local play park and having a shot on the swings and slide! Switch off your mind, release and enjoy time with others smiling and having fun.
Humans want to be liked
We all inherently want to be liked, admired, trusted, looked up to. And that is perfectly ok. It is natural to wanted to be liked by the others around you, and you will adapt to others when spending a lot of time together. Just don’t let another’s opinion of you reflect how you feel about yourself. You are going to be a lot of folks cup of tea, but some, you wont be. It doesn’t make you a bad person – believe in you and keep your chin up.
Humans make noises, sounds, actions…
Breaking news! Every single one of us farts, burps, belches, makes weird funny noises, have phlegm and bogeys. Phew, now we have gotten over that we can move on! Take away etiquette from the matter, we all have these things that we find ‘gross’. Life is sometimes too short to pretend that you never ever have to do a number 2 at work.
Humans need to rest
We work, we play, we rest. No matter if you have a high flying corporate career or if you are Mr ‘stone age’ Caveman, it’s the same principal. The difference is Mr Caveman actually allowed himself to rest. Make time for ‘you’. Don’t feel bad about chilling out on the sofa instead of being a social butterfly. Use your annual leave entitlements (I know for folks in Europe and Australia this seems like craziness but I cannot believe the stories I hear of folks in the US feeling bad about taking their leave). Remember that we are not programmed to be in ‘fight or flight’ stress mode 100% of the time.
What makes you feel ‘human’?
Do you forgive yourself when you make a mistake?
Do you have trouble allowing yourself to take your annual leave?