Allow yourself to be human #5TTT

Hi all,

Do you allow yourself to be human?

I know we are all individuals and should be treated as such. We have our own thoughts, ambitions, lifestyles and dreams. But deep down we are all the same. We are all human beings.

Our bodies have similar traits. Our minds have the same tendencies. Our programming, if you will, is so in line. There are many things we could connect ourselves together about.

For today’s ‘5 Top Tips on a Tuesday’ I want to break away from the details and get down to some of the deep set connections that we all have. Factors that connect us all as human beings. Sometimes seeing the bigger picture of humanity can help us hone in on what really matters and how we deal with various situations in our lives.human - chase the red grape

Humans make mistakes

We have all be there, as a transition into adulthood, learning the fundamental lesson that we will all make mistakes. Big or small, sometimes we will take the wrong path. But how we deal with the acknowledgement of the mistake is key. ‘To err is human, to forgive divine’… so why don’t we forgive ourselves for the mistakes we make? Why do we find it easier to forgive others than we do ourselves? Next time you make a mistake, own it, learn from it and move on.

Humans like to play

Like every other species out there, we have a desire within us to play. What you define as ‘play’ is up to you – it could be experimenting in the kitchen, playing with your puppy or kids, joining a club, frolicking on the beach (or in the bedroom…), or even, like I did a few weeks back, going to your local play park and having a shot on the swings and slide! Switch off your mind, release and enjoy time with others smiling and having fun.

Humans want to be liked

We all inherently want to be liked, admired, trusted, looked up to. And that is perfectly ok. It is natural to wanted to be liked by the others around you, and you will adapt to others when spending a lot of time together. Just don’t let another’s opinion of you reflect how you feel about yourself. You are going to be a lot of folks cup of tea, but some, you wont be. It doesn’t make you a bad person – believe in you and keep your chin up.

Humans make noises, sounds, actions…

Breaking news! Every single one of us farts, burps, belches, makes weird funny noises, have phlegm and bogeys. Phew, now we have gotten over that we can move on! Take away etiquette from the matter, we all have these things that we find ‘gross’. Life is sometimes too short to pretend that you never ever have to do a number 2 at work.

Humans need to rest

We work, we play, we rest. No matter if you have a high flying corporate career or if you are Mr ‘stone age’ Caveman, it’s the same principal. The difference is Mr Caveman actually allowed himself to rest. Make time for ‘you’. Don’t feel bad about chilling out on the sofa instead of being a social butterfly. Use your annual leave entitlements (I know for folks in Europe and Australia this seems like craziness but I cannot believe the stories I hear of folks in the US feeling bad about taking their leave). Remember that we are not programmed to be in ‘fight or flight’ stress mode 100% of the time.

What makes you feel ‘human’?

Do you forgive yourself when you make a mistake?

Do you have trouble allowing yourself to take your annual leave?5 top tips on a tuesday - chase the red grape

14 thoughts on “Allow yourself to be human #5TTT

    • Jen says:

      And everyone’s forward is so different, sometimes fast, sometimes slow, sometimes we go sideways and sometimes we crawl… but we are always moving!

  1. Cora says:

    Isn’t it crazy how easy it is for us to think we – and any “faults” we think we have – are “the only one of our kind?” When really, we all share all those things we feel embarrassed or guilty or ashamed of. Chances are the person next to you is thinking or feeling the same things you are. And yet we continue to stay secretive and worried of being “found out.” If only we could all remember all these points – that we are ALL human – and that we share much more than we lead ourselves to believe.
    One thing I’d like to add is that, no matter who we are, we as humans all need connection. Even the biggest introvert needs connection with others at times.
    I think you should submit this one to one of the journals/magazines you write for. Its beautiful.
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    • Jen says:

      Sometimes knowing other people share the same experiences as me, day in and out, helps me to focus and grasp control of a situation. We share more than we like to believe.
      Connection would have been my 6th point for sure! We all need to be surrounded by life and living things – they help us glow. I know when I connect, by a hug or sometimes even words, I feel like I am being charged up!
      I think I will try and submit this one Cora, thank you for the encouragement! 🙂

  2. Juli@1000lovelythings says:

    I like to think of myself that I am pretty self-reflective and have a pretty good attitude about myself. I don’t take myself too seriously and I guess that’s why I am relaxed about most things you mentioned here. What I find really nerve-wrecking though is forgiving myself my mistakes. I swear I could beat myself up for something stupid I have said 5 years ago easily right away.
    Also about taking leave, I know so many people who will take their leave but call work and check emails while they are not in the office. Unless you’re self-imployed the damn company won’t go down just because you take a week off. And if so there’s something going damn wrong anyway there.
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    • Jen says:

      I am the worst for beating myself up for saying the wrong thing, even if I know the other person will have moved on and wont realise I said anything wrong. Sadly I often don’t say anything at all for fear of saying the wrong thing – not good.
      And you are spot on about leave – if you cant take a holiday without checking emails or calling in then there is something wrong happening. More often than not I think folk just don’t like thinking that the business can function perfectly fine without them!

    • Jen says:

      If you can go like clockwork either before or after work then awesome beans – sitting on your own throne at home is always a nicer place to be 🙂

    • Jen says:

      And that’s the thing, we don’t even need to be a superhero 99% of the time! It’s just the pressure we put on ourselves. Self love and kindness all the way!

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