Do you ever reflect back on the past?
What do you think about yourself? Ever get frustrated?
I was talking this week to someone who was really angry and frustrated that they could no longer do the things they could do a few years ago, due to a needed time out. This person oozed angry energy and brought it up frequently. It was sad to see because I knew she was suffering by reacting this way.
So why do we do this to ourselves? From big issues like above to smaller ones like wishing we could still drink the same way as we did at university without a hangover, it’s easy to dive into the past and crave the life we once had. It’s familiar. It’s safe and we knew who we were. It’s a trend I tend to see with those 35 + but it’s creeping now into the younger generations too.
So for this weeks 5 top tips on a Tuesday I am going to help you to leave the past where it is at – proving to you that you should focus on now, rather than where you have been.
The past is the past
It is as simple as that. We cannot alter the past, we cannot control the past but most importantly we cannot live in the past. A life where we are constantly reliving the past in a negative way will damage the future and current you. Be proud of the things you have achieved and done in your lifetime, but don’t let the comparison trap between current you and old you take over.
Reflection can lead to unhappiness
Reflecting back can fill us with pride, hope at how far we have come, determination and just one great big smile. But reflection can also lead to deep unhappiness. Why were you the way you were back then? Was it because you were young? Had no commitments like work and children? Or did you simply have the time to devote to your hobby that you no longer have now? Maybe you are the opposite and you are unhappy with choices you have made in the past. Choices that you continue to beat yourself up about. If you must reflect then ask yourself these questions and similar to find out why the difference between old you and current you frustrates you so much.
Change happens because we are all human
For as many years as you have been on this world you are fully aware that change happens. Good change and bad change. We are human. Our bodies will change, our minds will expand, our circumstances come and go. Change is just a part of our existence on this planet. The sooner you can embrace the changes you have been dealt with the happier you will be. Even if they are rotten like being sick, the sooner you can find contentment and positivity the sooner you will find calm.
You can only be what you are now
Yes no matter what, you can only be what you are now! It is as harsh as that! In fact it is exactly what I said to the woman I was describing above. Own who you are. Be proud of who you are. And if there are things you want to improve upon then be that man or woman who is out there trying their best to just be better. Inspire others by your drive forward, not your focus on the past.
The present is exciting!
You can’t live in the past and you can’t live in the future. The only thing you can do is live for right now… and that is super exciting! Everything is ahead of you. You are in the driving seat of your own life. Take the wheel. Own it and ride that road into the future. Just remember to enjoy the drive. The road trip, not the destination is where the fun lies.
Do you tend to reflect on the past often?
Is there anything that your old self could do that you can’t do now?
Tell me something you can do right now that you are super proud of?