How to focus on you #5TTT

Hi all,

Other people. We love them, care for them, depend on them. We think about them 24/7. But when do you take time to focus on you?

Looking inside and checking in with yourself can be a scary task. What will our bodies actually tell us? Do we really want to listen? Are we happy or pretending to be happy?

Scarier still is living our lives without being fully in control of our own driving seat. And there is only one way to take control back. We have to focus on ourselves.

For this weeks 5 top tips on a Tuesday I am bringing to you 5 ways you can focus on yourself. Just small wee tweaks/ ideas to get you thinking about how much time you actually spend thinking about YOU.focus - chase the red grape

Stay mindful

Mindfulness is seen as a buzz word these days, but it really should have a place in your life. You can do this through meditation, taking a walk, or simply just taking time to check in with you and your thoughts – I like to do it in the bath! Knowing who you are and what you feel, taking time out to assess a situation or problem or just using some time to yourself to stay calm and positive can work wonders for your mental and physical health. Just a couple of minutes each day where you are the priority.

See the present

Too often we are living in the past or living for the future. Make sure you take time to look at everything around you right this second. We can all have dreams and goals and we can all reminisce about good times in the past but what counts is right now. You in this moment. Really think about what you can do right at this moment to help you smile, laugh and be happy.

Be willing and able to say no

People pleaser? Manic schedule? Social butterfly that’s wilting ever so slightly? No can be your friend. Assess what really matters to you – know your priorities for the day, week, month. Don’t see no as a weakness, see the word as a strength. No means you come first.

Allocate time for yourself

Finding it hard to get some you time in? Schedule it in. Try and find a time each day that is just for you. It could be 10 minutes before bed where you can enjoy a chapter of your book undisturbed. It could be a short walk at lunchtime to get some fresh air. Then find a time each week for an activity you enjoy. Yes I schedule in CrossFit at 6am 4 times a week but that by no means has to be a framework for your time. Maybe Thursday nights you meet up with a friend for a glass of wine or catch up with your latest TV show. Just knowing you have a set time where you are number one can feel so empowering.

See your good health as number one

Others dependent on you? Your job, family, friends? Feel like you can’t put your health first because they need your time more? It’s a tough one, but let me tell you, if you are healthy, strong and full of energy you will have the ability to help. You will have the strength to do everything you want to do within the relationship. Putting your health first is a selfless act. Focusing on you means you have the ability and means to be depended upon.

Do you take time to focus on you?

How good are you with allocating yourself personal time on a daily basis?

Do you have the ability to say no?5 top tips on a tuesday - chase the red grape

15 thoughts on “How to focus on you #5TTT

    • Jen says:

      Thanks Laura! Such an ‘ah ha!’ moment once you realise it is perfectly acceptable to use the word ‘No’ and the world doesn’t collapse!

  1. Miss Polkadot says:

    It’s so true we need to take care of ourselves to take care of others. You can’t give from an empty cup. I have a few friends/relatives who have a very hard time saying no and making their wellbeing a priority. I try to encourage them to do so but in the end, they have to take the step themselves.
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    • Jen says:

      ‘You can’t give from an empty cup’ – and oldie but one that never ceases to be correct. And you are spot on, we can only encourage others, they have to be ready to put themselves first.

  2. Cora says:

    Assessing my priorities has been really big for me lately. It works on days when I both feel overwhelmed with “too much to do” AND on days when I’m not sure what to do with myself. Somehow being able to say “okay I need to get this, and maybe this done, and the rest can wait” immediately calms me down – which then translates into how I treat others around me, and how I treat myself. I don’t understand this mentality about running ourselves to the ground in order to do this and this and this for other people… we aren’t our best selves for them if we live this way.
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    • Jen says:

      And it’s all about being our best selves, isn’t it!? That is where true happiness lies.
      In todays world it can be tough as there is always something that needs doing. But focussing on one or two priorities and therefore actually getting them done keeps me grounded so often!

  3. Juli@1000lovelythings says:

    I am the worst at saying no. But I get better at it. I practice a lot recently ;-P
    While I am with you on all of this I feel that especially recently I am so focused on myself that it’s not doing me a favor anymore. I see how I rub people the wrong way with being absent and preoccupied with myself. But maybe that’s just because I am in kind of a extrem situation now and I know that this will change in a few months. I don’t know… I think I want to say that you can easily take it too far, too.
    In general I advocate for a balance between focusing on ourselves to make sure to be okay but then taking a step away and focusing on something/ somebody else.
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    • Jen says:

      This is why I love you Juli – you assess what is right for you at that precise moment and go with that but yet you know it is ever-changing. So many around me struggle to even know what they want and need, they are so focussed on other people. It’s sad to watch.
      The ideal really is a balance and that is what I hope we can all achieve. We need to know what we need in life and what makes us happy but yet ‘no man (/woman) is an island’.

    • Jen says:

      I can only imagine how hard it is. Finally having a moments piece and quiet only to have to decide whether or not to take a nap and catch up on some sleep or do the 101 other things that you want to get done. If it was me you would probably find me asleep on my laptop!

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