Less is often best #5TTT

Hi all,

I have often talked about the less is more approach. How backing down can actually be a good thing. How we no longer need to define our worth in life by how busy we are.

But what I see more and more often is stress becoming a major player in our life and how we live it. And we wear it like a badge of honour.

Stressor upon stressor upon stressor.

And the scary thing is folk out there believe this leads to becoming stronger and stronger as a person.

Yes stress can lead to strength (take for example certain situations during exercise) but push it too far and it leads to fatigue – burnout – shut down – injury/ sickness. I’ve seen it, you’ve seen it but we have to protect ourselves so that we cannot allow it to happen to us (or if it has, lessen the impact).

Below are 5 areas of our lives where, if we aren’t careful, the more more more approach will ultimately lead to our bodies and minds burning out. 5 top tips on where less is often best.less best - chase the red grape

At work

Taking on more or doing more equals a promotion, right? Push push push, go go go is evidence of hard work, right? Not always. Trying too hard and struggling will always lead to bad work done by a fragile and exhausted employee. Want to do a good job? Be healthy and energised (both mentally and physically) to do it! Being a workaholic once upon a time was seen as a good thing… nowadays, not so much, not for you or the employer. Do your job, do it well, but not at the sacrifice of your health.

At home

What is your role at home and within your family? Do you always take on others problems and responsibilities? Do you like how much others ‘need’ you? Your family and your home life should be your sanctuary. It should be the place you can be yourself, surrounded by those who love you and want the best for you. Remember there is only so much time in the day – you need to make time for you. Protect and care but make sure you are also doing that for yourself also.

Training/ at the gym

Your body gains its strength at rest. So when do you plan to rest? When do you factor in time to restore? Fitness is one thing. Being faster, stronger and having workout times to brag about are great. But do you want health along with your fitness? Give your body time to do what it needs to do. Work it, nourish it, rest it.

Diet

More dieting? More challenges? More punishments? Your body can’t take it. Yes changes to your diet will initially evoke a response (remember the guy who lost weight only eating MacDonald’s for 2 weeks?) but this will creep back with a vengeance when your metabolism cannot cope anymore with this stressor. Find a balance. Find a way of eating that is right for you. Treat your body like you love it, not hate it. Stop punishing yourself.

Hobbies/ interests/ going out

You have to be an interesting person. Well, that’s what we are told in this day and age. That’s why kids are sent to every after school club going, they simply have to develop a varied skill set with lots of interests and lots of friends… You can see how crazy that is can’t you? You can see how kids will eventually burn out, get tired, bored and want to (need to) stop. So why do we do that to ourselves as adults? Why do we say yes to every invitation going? Why must we always be involved?

Say no once in a while. Miss out. Take a pass. Have a schedule where barely having plans is a good thing.

Less is often best.

Are you a more more more type of person?

Can you see where your life could do with a little less activity?

General thoughts?5 top tips on a tuesday - chase the red grape

6 thoughts on “Less is often best #5TTT

    • Jen says:

      Less really is so rewarding. I just hope we can spread the message to more folk – there are some out there who I love that I really hope will read this.
      And this puzzle is amazing… so much fun! I think we might even finish it tonight, it’s been our post work day activity all this week!

  1. Cora says:

    Sigh. Oh yes. One of my last sessions with my therapist, we talked about the “trying too hard” syndrome and the “good intention” syndrome. That perfectionist desire to always do right, always do more, always live up to your expectations. Ultimately, the more pressure you put on yourself the more you lose out or get upset because you simply can’t live up to those expectations that just keep growing and growing. I’m trying to believe that maybe “trying a little less” or “not pushing so hard,” may actually lead to more success. After all, I have learned to believe that things happen when you don’t plan them. They happen on their own when you just give them the time and space to come out.
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    • Jen says:

      You will get there my lovely. Each time you try and succeed you will thrive from that feeling and it will drive you to do it more often. I swear the older I get the more ‘what will be will be’ mentality feels so right.

  2. Juli@1000lovelythings says:

    Yes 100% to everything you said! And I second what Meg said about the need to let go of the go go go mentality.
    In general I don’t really see the reason to push personal growth at all. It feels like the wrong way to me! To be honest it sometimes even alienates me a bit when people push hard to ‘grow as a person’. I think if you do things you love and do it with a passion growth comes automatically. It shouldn’t be the goal, it should be the side effect!
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    • Jen says:

      You are so right Juli, personal growth should come naturally, otherwise it’s just a forced sense of growth… and do these people actually grow if they haven’t felt the change deep down in their core?
      Growth to me comes when I least expect it. I will be reflecting, chatting away to David and suddenly ‘woah, I never realised X’!

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