I have often talked about the less is more approach. How backing down can actually be a good thing. How we no longer need to define our worth in life by how busy we are.
But what I see more and more often is stress becoming a major player in our life and how we live it. And we wear it like a badge of honour.
Stressor upon stressor upon stressor.
And the scary thing is folk out there believe this leads to becoming stronger and stronger as a person.
Yes stress can lead to strength (take for example certain situations during exercise) but push it too far and it leads to fatigue – burnout – shut down – injury/ sickness. I’ve seen it, you’ve seen it but we have to protect ourselves so that we cannot allow it to happen to us (or if it has, lessen the impact).
Below are 5 areas of our lives where, if we aren’t careful, the more more more approach will ultimately lead to our bodies and minds burning out. 5 top tips on where less is often best.
Taking on more or doing more equals a promotion, right? Push push push, go go go is evidence of hard work, right? Not always. Trying too hard and struggling will always lead to bad work done by a fragile and exhausted employee. Want to do a good job? Be healthy and energised (both mentally and physically) to do it! Being a workaholic once upon a time was seen as a good thing… nowadays, not so much, not for you or the employer. Do your job, do it well, but not at the sacrifice of your health.
What is your role at home and within your family? Do you always take on others problems and responsibilities? Do you like how much others ‘need’ you? Your family and your home life should be your sanctuary. It should be the place you can be yourself, surrounded by those who love you and want the best for you. Remember there is only so much time in the day – you need to make time for you. Protect and care but make sure you are also doing that for yourself also.
Training/ at the gym
Your body gains its strength at rest. So when do you plan to rest? When do you factor in time to restore? Fitness is one thing. Being faster, stronger and having workout times to brag about are great. But do you want health along with your fitness? Give your body time to do what it needs to do. Work it, nourish it, rest it.
More dieting? More challenges? More punishments? Your body can’t take it. Yes changes to your diet will initially evoke a response (remember the guy who lost weight only eating MacDonald’s for 2 weeks?) but this will creep back with a vengeance when your metabolism cannot cope anymore with this stressor. Find a balance. Find a way of eating that is right for you. Treat your body like you love it, not hate it. Stop punishing yourself.
Hobbies/ interests/ going out
You have to be an interesting person. Well, that’s what we are told in this day and age. That’s why kids are sent to every after school club going, they simply have to develop a varied skill set with lots of interests and lots of friends… You can see how crazy that is can’t you? You can see how kids will eventually burn out, get tired, bored and want to (need to) stop. So why do we do that to ourselves as adults? Why do we say yes to every invitation going? Why must we always be involved?
Say no once in a while. Miss out. Take a pass. Have a schedule where barely having plans is a good thing.
Less is often best.
Are you a more more more type of person?
Can you see where your life could do with a little less activity?