When living your life with a purpose means you forget to live your life #5TTT

Hi all,

Live your life with a purpose.

I see that statement everywhere right now. There is so much power behind it and merit as to why it can make such an impact on us all. Make sure you LIVE your LIFE and do so with PURPOSE.

How does that statement make you feel? Empowered and alive. Or maybe you are like me and it makes me feel somewhat stressed and anxious. The entire movement towards happiness and stress free living is incredible and it is fantastic at spurring cravings within us all. But how much attention do we give to these thoughts? More so than any other generation I can imagine. And without a clear road/ path, what do we actually want?

For this weeks 5 Top Tips on a Tuesday I want to break this down and look at what we are all facing /is being asked of us in this day and age. When living your life with a purpose (or attempting to) means you forget to live your life.purpose - chase the red grape

Millennial talk – finding and reaching our dreams

From Generation Y to the Millennial, we are constantly being bombarded with messages to ‘find and reach our dreams’. Teens are feeling even more pressure now on the decisions they make at school and how this will affect their eventual adulthood. In our careers we are starting to ask ourselves ‘is this really it?’ and ‘is this enough’. Sometimes it is and sometimes it isn’t. We see pictures on social media of everyone all over the world doing different things, prompting us to ask ‘do I want that too’?. PRESSURE!

Sometimes, however, it is perfectly acceptable to simply say we just DON’T KNOW! In constantly looking towards future dreams we forget about the journey and living in the present moment. If you truly have a dream, break it down into small chunks so you can achieve it step by step and have fun along the way. But if you don’t know your dreams or your purpose right now, that is no problem at all – just focus on the now and what makes you happy right this second.

Not being stuck in jobs or tied down

Living life with a purpose means not being stuck in a job you aren’t 100% happy with or being tied down, right? Well maybe yes and maybe no.

We all have done jobs we didn’t want to do. That is a fact of growing up. But what did those jobs teach us? Experience. We learnt what we liked and didn’t like, what we wanted and didn’t want. Sometimes we have to go through this period to figure things out. Don’t worry if you aren’t happy in your job right now, maybe your purpose is to learn through this job to find your passion.

Feel tied down in a relationship or situation? Ask yourself, ‘do I want this’. For some folk, being tied down is a comfort, a bond, a happiness that they are perfectly content with. It may not be what society is telling us to do but if it makes you happy then do not feel a pressure to change. Happiness IS a purpose.

Pressure to be everything we hope and desire

Do you remember when you were younger and you knew exactly what you wanted to be when you grew up? How many times did that change? Are you actually in that role/ working towards it right now? If yes then great! If not, like I imagine most of us are, do you put pressure on yourself to still be that Vet/ Archaeologist/ Dolphin trainer? I don’t think so.

We allow ourselves to accept that what we wanted for our lives when we were 10 isn’t what we want now. So why do we feel pressure to still follow those dreams we had in our twenties when we are now mid thirties?

Your hopes and desires can change and will change. Your purpose, your overall aim in life will change over time. Keep re-evaluating how you feel and if you don’t feel the same way as you did, go down a different path. It’s your journey, you dictate the road.

To be more than the generation before

I can hear so many people stating that they don’t want to be like the generation before. I get it, I truly do. I don’t want to live my life around my work. I don’t want to bring stress home. I don’t want my health to suffer because of x,y,z. But please remember that we can also learn a lot from the previous generation on how to LIVE.

Hard working, dedicated, family orientated, compassionate, living without comparison, content are just a few of the positive words I would use to describe those I know in the generation above me. They are all aspects which I would love to have in my life.

Not having any regrets

Not having any regrets in life is not a new term but it’s context has definitely changed. FOMO (fear of missing out) is a term which wraps the whole world of social media and is leading so many people to have a sense of regret that they never had before. Ok so seeing this picture, place, event etc on the internet makes you crave it, but in not going there or doing that, is it a life regret?

Since the internet has opened up the world so have our bucket lists increased. Listen to your gut, what do you really want to do right now? Maybe saying no to an opportunity now will open something else up later or vice versa. It’s the risk of life. Is it FOMO or do you fear regret?

Keep reflecting on your life and your true goals – a regret right now many not necessarily be a regret later. Try not to be swayed by FOMO or allowing it to bring you down.

A big thought for today but one I hope has got you feeling a little less stressed out about living your life with a purpose. Instead let’s remember to actually LIVE LIFE, keep the present happy and remember you are in control of your journey and it’s purpose, whether you know what that is or not. We are all different, we all want different things and let’s keep it that way! Respect other folks journey just as you respect your own.

How do you feel when asked about living life with a purpose?

Do you still have the same dreams as 5, 10, 15 years ago?

What would you love to have in your life that you have seen within the previous generation?5 top tips on a tuesday - chase the red grape

21 thoughts on “When living your life with a purpose means you forget to live your life #5TTT

  1. Juli@1000lovelythings says:

    I am completely with you! This whole purpose idea is so glorified and leaves no room for change or doubts. It’s so fear driven. I actually absolutely despise this whole purpose idea. I like the idea behind it. Like don’t do everything because you feel you should but because you decided you want to. But you can take this way to far way too easily. Because when you don’t have a career you are madly dedicated to and which is in line with your interests 10000% you are doing something wrong. Wasting your precious time, your precious life even. Also I experience in my job that whilst the students kinda have this desire to get involved in their jobs like this the work environment is by far not prepared to offer job roles that mach this desire. This is bound to rebound! What’s left is the sense of failure.
    Sorry for the rant. This is just something I deal with on a daily basis and makes me really mad!
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    • Jen says:

      Never ever say sorry for having a rant Juli – this is a subject we are both very passionate about that we need to talk more about! I especially love how you describe it as being ‘fear driven’ – so so true.
      Every part of our life is a journey and not accepting this only leads to disappointment and that sense of failure you were spot on about.
      Glad to hear you are on the same wavelength with me about this.

  2. Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table says:

    Oh man… I have felt all of these things. I spent so much time doing what I thought I was supposed to be doing. It really, really sucked. LOL! I make a lot less now, but it’s so much more fun and and I have the time to do all sorts of fun things.

    It’ll be interesting to see what the next 5 years brings. Or 15! the climate in this country is making me want to shift focus.
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    • Jen says:

      Gosh if you had told me 5 years ago I would be living in Australia right now I never would have believed you… and I am guessing you are the same with being somewhere, doing things you would never have dreamed of.
      I felt such a release when I fully understood that I didn’t need to conform to the ‘shoulds’ anymore. It made more room for fun in my life and simply enjoying where I am right now rather than stressing over what I could be doing. Here’s to whatever the next 5, 10, 15 years brings! 🙂

  3. sarah@creatingbettertomorrow says:

    AHHHH the pressure to be everything to everyone at all times…that gets me..>I have so many goals to achieve but I have to realize I need to focus on what’s important…and then the goals will come as they will, sometimes much slower than when I want!

    • Jen says:

      When we realise that goals are not instantaneous and that the real fun of the goal is in the journey, it can bring such a sense of relief. Goals shouldn’t be about pressure, they should be about happiness and living life. Just do what you can in the moment and everything will fall into place as it should 🙂

    • Jen says:

      Giving you all the feels is always my aim with these posts! Glad it resonated with you and gave you an awesome start to the day! 🙂

  4. Cora says:

    Oh wow now what an act of BALANCE this one is. It’s a tough one. Like you, this phrase sparks much more anxiety and risk of regret for me than anything else. Of course I want to live my life driven towards my passion and know I’ve tried my hardest to get my dreams, but sometimes driving too hard can actually get us onto the wrong side of the road and make us forget why we were driving in the first place. It’s so easy to let the world make you believe you aren’t working or trying hard enough. I think the difference is what you’ve said here: life’s purpose is happiness. The constant main objective should be to stay mindful of where we are at, what we want and how we are feeling with our Current surroundings. The present moment should be all that feels truly purposeful. At least in my humble opinion.
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    • Jen says:

      Cora, your entire comment simply highlights exactly what I hoped my readers would pull from this post – it makes me really happy.
      You are actually one of the very few people I know who have a solid dream/ passion and are actively pursuing it, however hard it may be. By doing this you not only are inspiring others but inspiring yourself – you know you can enjoy the journey because you are constantly seeking out all the small steps along the way that get you closer to this dream. Where we are at, at this precise moment is the purpose, everything we have ever done in our lives has lead us to this moment… we should therefore take some time to really be happy and enjoy it! 🙂
      (I could write for hours on this…!)

  5. Miss Polkadot says:

    A big thought, yes, but such a necessary one in the world we live in today. You really nailed it, Jen.
    Life – as they say – happens when you’re making plans. It’s hardly ever linear for anybody and for good reasons. Yes, sometimes I wish I knew exactly how my life’s going to shape out in the following, say, five years. Then again, only if we’re talking happy things. And it just never works that way. Okay, I digress here but know that you truly got me thinking. Thank you for that.
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    • Jen says:

      Always glad to get everyone thinking – it truly is the aim of these posts, even if you don’t know what the overall outcome of your thoughts are!
      When I look back 5 years, if you had told me I would be where I am today I never would have believed you. So much can happen in such a short space of time. The unknown can be so scary but that is why I love living in the present moment, it helps us with that sense of control, knowing that each step we take on our path comes from everything that has shaped us before it. Even the ‘downs’ in my past have helped shape the ‘ups’, so even if things are not great in the present, we can trust that it may lead to happiness in the future.

  6. Kristy from Southern In Law says:

    SO MUCH YES to this, girl!

    My dreams have definitely changed in the last 5-10 years. When I left school, I started out as a photographer thinking that I couldn’t be the writer I wanted because I wasn’t going to university – but here I am today as a ridiculously busy writer and social media manager, achieving so much more than I ever imagined – but only because I let myself be in those “I don’t know” moments as I figured out what I really wanted.
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    • Jen says:

      It’s so nice to hear from someone who simply let themselves be in the ‘I don’t know’ moments. These are the moments where we truly find out where our talents and interests lie. Gosh if I think of everything that has changed in the last 5 years… well for one I have literally gone from the north to the south of the world!

  7. Meghan@CleanEatsFastFeets says:

    I think it’s crazy to expect an 18 year old to know what they want to do with the rest of their life and then stick to that plan. It’s too young and too rigid. We need to learn to be able to support ourselves and still try to find a way to let happiness in. I also think we’re so career driven when at the end of the day, that might not actually make you happy. It might be the things you pursue in your free time that drive you.
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    • Jen says:

      So much yes to this Meg. It boils my blood to see pressure being put on people of all ages to know everything they want and desire at any given time… then these people are pressured into achieving it ASAP.
      I totally agree as well that sometimes happiness really can grow from what you do in your spare time. As long as it makes the person happy then that’s all that should matter 🙂

    • Jen says:

      Happiness really is enough. And what makes one person happy will be so different to another – we just need to respect that. 🙂

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