The mental challenges of moving home #5TTT

Hi all,

This weekend I am moving apartments. Phew.

It’s such a demanding time, stressful and everything just seems like it’s never going to come together.

We all know how physically demanding moving can be. Packing, lifting, sorting, up and down stairs, cleaning, lack of sleep etc. But have you ever thought about the mental challenges of moving home?

For this weeks 5 top tips I want to share 5 ways in which moving can affect your mental game. Take care and don’t let it stress you out. (I am telling myself this right now!).moving home - chase the red grape

Letting go of a safe space

Your home is your sanctuary. It’s where you feel safe and calm. Moving, no matter what the circumstances, means that you have to break free from this space – it’s why most of us take so long to make the big leap of moving in the first place. Embrace what this space has given you – a home, cosiness, memories and let go. Holding on makes it very difficult for your new home to provide this sense of comfort.

Reviewing your belongings

Moving means packing. Packing means arranging and sorting, viewing and making decisions on all the belongings you have of old and new. Do I need this? Do I want this? What memory does this evoke? So many questions for what is already a stressful time. My go to question is ‘would someone else get more use out of this?’ – donating always makes me feel good. For more sentimental belongings I ask myself ‘would future Jen potentially regret letting go of this?’ If the answer is yes or there is a doubt I keep it.

Overwhelm of cost

For some of us, like me, moving becomes a source of anxiety because of the financial cost. Never mind the general cost of paying different rents, deposits, transferring letting agencies and the like, it’s the hidden/ forgetful costs that pile up for me. Transferring utilities and internet, van hire, cost of packing materials, mail redirection, even down to the endless coffees and take out meals that are inevitable over moving days. Big deep breath. For most of us, this is not a frequent occurrence. Sure your savings are going to take a hit, but make the best choices, source out the best deals and be happy in the notion that although inevitable, you did the best you could money wise.

Creating a new home

You’re in a blank space. Your whole world surrounds you in boxes and bags. What do you do now? How do you create that safe space? Oh, did you notice that when we first took a look around? I don’t know if I like that. Why didn’t I notice that? Sound familiar?

Another big breath. Safe, cosy, calm spaces come over time. They come when you find a home for all your little nick naks. Don’t rush it, let it develop.

Big changes and how they affect the rest of your world

Moving home is a big deal, whether it be moving down the road, to another city or to the other side of the world. When one big change happens you start to look at other aspects of your life in a different way. One big change spurs another. We become more confident, more pensive, more ambitious. Now whether or not other changes come to fruition or these thoughts just come and go, that’s up to you. But if you can move house, what else can you do if you want to?

And for me, all that is left is to move!

Due to this I will be taking some time off and will be back to let you know how we got on with a Friday Favourites on the 15th! Keep up to date with the move etc over on Instagram – yep I will be that person who insta-stories rather than packing!

And don’t forget to check out this weeks podcast which is released tomorrow (Wed 6th). The topic is body image and it’s one heck of a podcast episode. We both speak open and honestly about our experience and it’s definitely worth a listen if you want to feel great about who you are and how you can control how you view yourself. Or subscribe over on iTunes or Stitcher and you definitely won’t miss it!

When was the last time you moved home?

Do you find it easy to create a new safe space?

Have you ever made a change in another area of your life after moving home?5 top tips on a tuesday - chase the red grape

6 thoughts on “The mental challenges of moving home #5TTT

  1. Meghan@CleanEatsFastFeets says:

    Moving is so stressful. We’ve done it three times now, although we’ve been in this house about seven or eight years and have no plans to leave. I always focus on the bedroom, the kitchen and the bathroom first and worry about everything else later. I also pack one box of necessities I need to keep close by (one set of dishware, bedding, a change of clothes, a towel and toiletries). This was after all the physical moving is done you can eat, clean yourself and sleep so you can deal with everything else the next day.
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    • Jen says:

      I love the idea of a necessities box Meg and it is exactly what I am going to do. As always sometimes the simple, most logical things you never think of yourself!
      Your house is beautiful… Ave will be so lucky to grow up in such a beautiful and cosy home.

  2. Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table says:

    Good luck! We’ve moved 4 times in 3 years, and it is exhausting. Thankfully, we don’t really fight – I feel like a lot of people do due to the stress. We’re able to lean on each other and mutually complain. HA! The costs are killer though. I never plan for all of the meals we have to eat out.
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    • Jen says:

      I thank goodness that David and I don’t fight either – like you, we moan together! Haha!
      All done now and moved in. Just to unpack. Fingers crossed both of us stay put now for a while!

  3. Juli@1000lovelythings says:

    Hope the move went smoothly! After moving the last time I swore I wouldn’t leave this apartment until I am physically forced to do so. We live here for 6 1/2 years now. For the two of us it’s perfect so we have no immediate plans to find something new. But we have to paint a few rooms in the next time and in some regards painting while you still live in the apartment is even worse.
    Hope you feel at home in your new place soon!
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    • Jen says:

      Move is all done and so is most of the unpacking! It feels great to be in the new place and feels like home already. It’s smaller than our last place but that just makes it feel cosy and more ‘us’ if that makes sense.
      It’s funny because everyone I have spoke to absolutely hates moving and swears they will never do it again unless they have to. I really do think everyone has a universal hatred of moving!

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