Are you tired of feeling like you have to fight all the time? Maybe your life feels like one constant battle. Maybe you feel like it’s one battle after the next after the next…
We live in stressful times – sometimes its external stress, sometimes it’s the stress we impose upon ourselves to be more, do more. Work, home, family, Instagram… fight, fight, fight. Aren’t you exhausted? I know I am.
So for this weeks 5 top tips I want to get you thinking about how we can all pick our battles in life. Battles are inevitable, but how they appear in our lives and how we react to them really is the key.
Remember, life should be easy
It may sound obvious but sometimes I think we really do forget this point. The purpose of life isn’t to be hard, full of pressures and constant battles. It should be easy, fun and happy. If you can’t make your battles disappear then try introducing a new habit/ routine into your life to do something you enjoy. Taking a walk, reading a book, a long soak in the bath.
Figure out your priorities. What do you really want to focus on? What demands your attention and deserves your attention? What battles are worth fighting? What is worth your time, energy, drive and, sometimes a part of your soul? (Or it sure feels like it anyway!). Fighting for equal pay at work = a battle worth fighting for. Trying to get your kids to pick up their socks and allowing it to drive you insane = not worth it.
Are you fighting? Is it really a battle? Are you the only one in your team that feels this way? Battles can be surrounded by so much confusion, how do we really feel? In order to work this out you need to focus on gaining clarity. Make sleep a priority so that your mind can process the information and break it down into the necessary and unnecessary. Take some time to walk or meditate. Allow yourself to slow down during the madness so that you can really take stock of what is going on. Maybe you do need to be a warrior for a while – take care of yourself so that you are in the best head space to fight.
Sometimes the right thing to do is give in
You win some, you lose some, right? Well you need to let this be your mantra. If it’s not worth fighting then it’s perfectly fine to give in. You are not a loser! You are not weak! You are not less of a person! Remember this! Picking your battles means that often you just have to let go. You may not be entirely happy but you won’t have gained the stress and anxiety that often comes with fighting. And soon enough, if it wasn’t worth fighting for then the anger will disappear.
Take ownership of your choices
Whatever you decide to do in battle, fight or not, just make sure you own your choice. There is nothing more confidence boosting that taking ownership of your own decisions. You may decide that a particular argument just isn’t worth it but are you letting the other person ‘win’ if you walk away with your head held high and don’t allow it to affect you? No. You win because you took control of your own life and your own decisions, regardless of what that decision was.
You have the right to pick and choose your battles – just make sure to take advantage of it!
Do you feel like you are constantly fighting?
Are you good at assessing what’s worth fighting and what’s not?
Are you good at walking away from an argument?