The mental challenges of moving home #5TTT

Hi all,

This weekend I am moving apartments. Phew.

It’s such a demanding time, stressful and everything just seems like it’s never going to come together.

We all know how physically demanding moving can be. Packing, lifting, sorting, up and down stairs, cleaning, lack of sleep etc. But have you ever thought about the mental challenges of moving home?

For this weeks 5 top tips I want to share 5 ways in which moving can affect your mental game. Take care and don’t let it stress you out. (I am telling myself this right now!).moving home - chase the red grape

Letting go of a safe space

Your home is your sanctuary. It’s where you feel safe and calm. Moving, no matter what the circumstances, means that you have to break free from this space – it’s why most of us take so long to make the big leap of moving in the first place. Embrace what this space has given you – a home, cosiness, memories and let go. Holding on makes it very difficult for your new home to provide this sense of comfort.

Reviewing your belongings

Moving means packing. Packing means arranging and sorting, viewing and making decisions on all the belongings you have of old and new. Do I need this? Do I want this? What memory does this evoke? So many questions for what is already a stressful time. My go to question is ‘would someone else get more use out of this?’ – donating always makes me feel good. For more sentimental belongings I ask myself ‘would future Jen potentially regret letting go of this?’ If the answer is yes or there is a doubt I keep it.

Overwhelm of cost

For some of us, like me, moving becomes a source of anxiety because of the financial cost. Never mind the general cost of paying different rents, deposits, transferring letting agencies and the like, it’s the hidden/ forgetful costs that pile up for me. Transferring utilities and internet, van hire, cost of packing materials, mail redirection, even down to the endless coffees and take out meals that are inevitable over moving days. Big deep breath. For most of us, this is not a frequent occurrence. Sure your savings are going to take a hit, but make the best choices, source out the best deals and be happy in the notion that although inevitable, you did the best you could money wise.

Creating a new home

You’re in a blank space. Your whole world surrounds you in boxes and bags. What do you do now? How do you create that safe space? Oh, did you notice that when we first took a look around? I don’t know if I like that. Why didn’t I notice that? Sound familiar?

Another big breath. Safe, cosy, calm spaces come over time. They come when you find a home for all your little nick naks. Don’t rush it, let it develop.

Big changes and how they affect the rest of your world

Moving home is a big deal, whether it be moving down the road, to another city or to the other side of the world. When one big change happens you start to look at other aspects of your life in a different way. One big change spurs another. We become more confident, more pensive, more ambitious. Now whether or not other changes come to fruition or these thoughts just come and go, that’s up to you. But if you can move house, what else can you do if you want to?

And for me, all that is left is to move!

Due to this I will be taking some time off and will be back to let you know how we got on with a Friday Favourites on the 15th! Keep up to date with the move etc over on Instagram – yep I will be that person who insta-stories rather than packing!

And don’t forget to check out this weeks podcast which is released tomorrow (Wed 6th). The topic is body image and it’s one heck of a podcast episode. We both speak open and honestly about our experience and it’s definitely worth a listen if you want to feel great about who you are and how you can control how you view yourself. Or subscribe over on iTunes or Stitcher and you definitely won’t miss it!

When was the last time you moved home?

Do you find it easy to create a new safe space?

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When the seasons change #5TTT

Hi all,

The world is changing seasons. Whether you are like me and transitioning into winter or you are in the northern hemisphere transitioning into summer, we are all making a ‘change’.

These changes, even though they happen year in and out, still take a toll on our physical and mental health. I know for sure that heading into winter, right now I feel more tired, sluggish and less like the energetic me!

So how can we help ourselves transition smoothly? What can we do to give our mind and body what it needs to start the new season with a bang? Check out my 5 top tips below for when the seasons change.seasons - chase the red grape

Find a routine

Especially during the start of the transition, keeping a routine will be key to maintaining all the good habits you had from the season previous. Now when I get up it’s pitch black outside – but I still stick to my same wake up time and this makes it easy for my body to work out when I have had enough sleep and it’s time to rise. Same goes for the summer folks – it may be easier to stay up later because it’s lighter outside but stick to your bedtime and it will know when you need to sleep.

Keep moving

Who wants to go outside and move when it’s wet and cold outside? Who wants to move when you break into a sweat as soon as you step outdoors? Whether it be hot or cold for you right now it is going to be a struggle. But we all know that keeping our bodies moving and grooving is going to keep that blood flow pumping and help us stay energised. Too cold? You will warm up soon enough. Too hot? Maybe you take your workout indoors at this time of year. Figure out what you need to do to keep your body moving.

Choose foods in season

Seasonal foods are the healthiest foods for a reason. They are at their prime, aka full of their biggest nutrient bang, and are full of the energy you need right now. Unsure what is in season? Usually it’s the produce that is on offer/special at the supermarket. In season = in abundance. A win for your body and a win for your pocket!

What are you missing?

This is a great opportunity to assess your body to see if it is lacking anywhere. If it is winter, maybe you need to check in with yourself to see if you are getting enough vitamin D. I also like to have on hand access to blankets in my apartment so if I feel cold it is easy to warm up. If it is summer, maybe you need to make sure you carry a water bottle with you and keep those fluids topped up. Or you need to start seriously thinking about adding some sunscreen to your makeup routine. Maybe you need to start checking your electric fans and air con to see if it is all working correctly. Pre-empt the seasonal changes and make sure you are ready.

Embrace the change

This one is the biggest winner for my mental health. Embrace the changes of the season. Yes I may wish I was still in shorts and t-shirts every day and that I could head down to the beach for a paddle. But there is something special about winter too. The crisp cold air that you feel on your face all while being surrounded with layers of clothes keeping you warm. Crunching the leaves underneath your feet that have fallen from the trees. Digging out your slow cooker to make soups, stews and chilli. Oh and sipping away on mulled wine again… in June… yeah I may never get used to how odd that sounds!

And you may be sitting in front of your air con all day because it is too hot to do anything (me a few months ago) but just think of how good it feels to jump into the refreshing sea. How tasty those perfectly ripe strawberries and cherries are. And how refreshing that cocktail is when you sit down after a busy long summers day.

Whatever transition you are making right now I hope it is a good one! Enjoy!

Are you happy to be heading into your new season?

What are you most looking forward to?

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There is no secret. Everything is a choice. #5TTT

Hi all,

So many people out there are on the hunt constantly. The hunt for the secret. Those things that other people are hiding – the secret to success. What is the secret to health? What is the secret to happiness? What is the secret to 6 pack abs? What is the secret to having time to cook?

There has to be a secret right? There has to be elements that we are all hiding from one and other?

The answer? No.

There is no secret. Nothing at all. No one is hiding anything from you. In fact, what you need you have had all along. The ability to choose.

The choices you make in your life dictate your success. Now I’m not saying we can’t learn from our mistakes or poor choices, but the simple act of having the ability to choose is where it’s at. You maybe can’t choose all of your actions as you would desire (hello responsibilities), but you can choose how you feel about them.

This weeks 5 top tips looks at 5 areas where your choice matters. Where you know what you have to do, you just need to allow yourself to feel it.choice - Chase the red grape

Choose happiness

This one changed my life. And I’m not exaggerating. Whilst on the road of recovery, I was having a really hard time. I couldn’t break from negativity and feeling like everyone was attacking me. I had read about choosing happiness – aka when in a situation where you feel negative thoughts, you choose not to feel them and instead choose happiness. So I decided to give it a go. Every time I felt angry, before I responded to someone, I stopped, thought about if it was worth a reaction, and 9 times out of 10 chose instead to ignore it or to respond positively instead. Now don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t easy and it took a lot of practice to build this as a core attitude into my life. But once you try, with each success you feel lighter, more free. And yes, definitely more happy.

Choose health

The media bombards you with information. Do this not that, eat this not that. But ultimately you know exactly what you should and shouldn’t do to be healthy. You just have to choose it. You know your body needs nutrients and they come in abundance from vegetables, fruits, meat, nuts etc. You know your body needs to move and the right form of movement for you is the one that makes you feel good. You know that sleep is important and that stress makes you feel bad. The secret to health is choosing to do those things, eat those things and eliminate the things that zap your energy.

Choose change

If you want a specific goal you have to make changes to achieve them. As I mentioned above, you want those 6 pack abs? You are going to have to choose to put in the work. You want to be able to cook? You are going to have to choose to try. What we want often requires us to change. Scary yes but it’s an emotion we are going to have to embrace if we want it.

Choose your motivation

Willpower, motivation… they are all driven by you. Everything you want you have to choose. Choosing once is hard. Choosing five times gets easier. Choosing to do something week in and out for a month, now that’s inspiring. Willpower and motivation become unnecessary when something is a choice. You can take responsibility for everything you do. Every good habit you build, every new routine you put in place to achieve your goals or live a positive life. Step up and take ownership of your decisions… or lack of.

Choose to be open

And finally I am adding in ‘choose to be open’ because you know this is a hard one for me. I can write with confidence and openness, but in my face to face real life I tend to be a closed book. Real life relationships are so important to our health and happiness and although it makes us vulnerable we can never connect fully without being vulnerable. So I am choosing to be open, choosing to be vulnerable, choosing to trust before it feels comfortable. I am choosing friendship over fear.

Do you find it hard to choose positivity over negativity?

What choices have you made for your health?

Does anyone ever ask you ‘what’s your secret’? (I get asked all the time what the secret is to getting up at 5am to go to CrossFit 4 times per week. My answer – I choose to get up when the alarm goes off).5 top tips on a tuesday - chase the red grape

Why do we intentionally hold ourselves back? #5TTT

Hi all,

You are your own worst enemy.

It’s a line that I write over and over again. Its truth never ceases to end…

We can all cite many reasons as to why we are not doing what we want to do this exact second. Money, time, energy, opportunity, circumstance etc I could list for days. But have you actually debated as to whether or not you are the reason for holding yourself back? Are you your own blockade?

Some say we hold ourselves back because we are afraid of succeeding. But I know from my own personal experience that success doesn’t even come into my head when I hold myself back from entering new territory. When you are frozen by your own hand the easy option is to continue being cold.

For this weeks 5 Top Tips on a Tuesday I am going to delve into why we intentionally hold ourselves back. From your career to relationships, hobbies and health, reflect on the questions and information below so we can remove your own personal blockade in life.intentionally - chase the red grape

Judgement

Do you remember when you were young and you had a hobby or interest that you just loved and took so much pleasure from? But you actually ditched the interest because others thought it was uncool or stupid? We always felt like we were being judged by our peers when we were younger and what others thought of us meant the world. But time has passed. You are now a grown up. Why do you still allow that fear of judgement to stop you from doing something you love? Do you really care nowadays what other people think? We are all different. We all like different things. Don’t allow the judgement from others to rule and dictate your life. Be you, be loud and be proud.

Fear of change

Change is scary. Always has been, always will be. But your dreams and goals are achieved through change. Don’t hold yourself back because you are afraid of what the future may hold if you change the status quo. No one knows what it will hold. Maybe that change will be just what you need.

Unwillingness to be seen

So let me use myself as an example here. I love what I do. I love to write. According to every single personality test out there I am an extrovert. Yet I find it hard to talk about myself. I put up walls to protect myself from being hurt by others. I find it difficult to trust. I find it hard to really describe and talk about what I do. So I don’t. I listen often but rarely talk. I want people to notice me but I don’t allow myself to be seen. And therein lies my answer. How can anyone see me unless I remove my own wall?

Comfort in the now

Comfort in the now is different to fear of change. Fear of change refers to a fear of the future. Comfort in the now is where living in the present can paralyze us. We live our routines day in and day out like clock work. They are our comfort blankets. For some, they help us to thrive. For others they can shield you eyes. So how do you know which is you? Happiness. Are you entirely happy right now with your life? Yes? Then great. No? Then start removing your hands from over your eyes. See the world around you. How can you create change?

We feel we need more – comparison

Ah yes the good old comparison trap. It gets us every time, whether we realise it or not. But do you ever hold yourself back because you know, even if you go for it, you won’t be as good as someone else? What’s the point then? They will always be better, faster, more intelligent etc. Because you are you. You need to find comfort in your own achievements, regardless of what others have done. Be proud of what you can do and continue to do. Do your best not to compare. If there is anything out there you want to do – simply try. You may not succeed or be as good as others but you will be inspiration to so many, including yourself, because you to took down your barriers, went out there and tried.

Is there any area of your life where you intentionally hold yourself back?

Do you like being seen by others?

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Currently – June

Hi all,

How’s the week treating you?

I’m currently in that odd phase – you know, the one you feel when you are back in your routine after a holiday. I’m not ‘down’ or ‘sad’, it’s more that I am missing that focal point, that aim and the little buzz in your tummy that looking forward to a holiday brings.

It’s a bit too early to plan another holiday right now, especially seen as it will probably be a small break, staycation style and therefore not really requiring a lot of planning. And I certainly have plenty on my plate. I think the problem is, when we go on holiday, break the routine and then return to it, cracks start to appear. We start to see those things we aren’t so happy with and therefore need to find the courage to change it.

So I’m working on it. Identifying what it is that is making me feel so ‘odd’ and making adjustments. First one on the list was feeling lonely whilst writing from home. So now I spend 3 out of the 5 week days writing in the library. Just for a few hours each of those days but boy does it make me feel better. The walk there and back in the fresh air helps so much too – it’s so easy to want to stay inside during winter. Making positive changes like this one really does inspire me to work on more, lets see how I go!currently - chase the red grape

For now though, I get to sit in my beautiful library and bring to you my ‘Currently’ post for June. Linking up with lovely Amanda over @RunningWithSpoons for ‘Thinking Out Loud’. Let’s hop to it!

Current…

Book – Harry Potter and The Order of the PhoenixHarry Potter - Chase the Red Grape

On to book 5! Thoroughly enjoyed re-reading The Goblet of Fire again but would I put it as my favourite one of the series now? I don’t know. Sometimes when you read things as you are older it changes your perspective. Now book 3 (Prisoner of Azkaban) that was more of a winner.

Obsession – The Sunrisesunrise - chase the red grape

We have some seriously amazing sunrises and sunsets here in Perth. I love seeing them most mornings as we return from CrossFit. This was my view on Wednesday, It was ruby red when I woke and by the time I got my camera it was like this.

Craving – Vietnamese Iced Coffeecoffee - chase the red grape

Had one in Melbourne and been dreaming of one ever since! It’s super sweet but just incredible in flavour…. maybe my body is just craving sugar… or coffee… or both!

Food – Freshly ground PBPB - Chase the red grape

We picked up this tub of freshly ground peanut butter from the market in Melbourne, and yes, took the rest of it back on the plane with us. We are almost finished it now, boo, but it has just been so delicious and flavourful – probably due to the dark roasting of the nuts before the grind. And it was super cheap too – wish we could get it from our market here. Sadly just ‘hipster’ nut butters at our one…

Drink – All the tea!tea - chase the red grape

I love coffee but sometimes I need a hot drink without the caffeine (or smaller amounts) – hello tea! We have a nice variety at home but I always keep coming back to the peppermint and liquorice, it’s so good. And really refreshing too!

Procrastination – People watching in the librarylibrary - chase the red grape

One minute I am writing, next minute I am watching people, it’s like ‘squirrel’ for humans! But I genuinely enjoy watching people, seeing what types of books they are carrying and thinking about what type of person they are.

Blessing – Health and Happiness

After various happenings over the past few weeks, it has become evermore clear to me how blessed I am to wake up each day in good health and to feel happy. We should never take this for granted.

Excitement – Cinema

Off to the cinema this weekend I think, and as it is due to rain I am happy at the thought of being inside. Now just the decision of what to go and see… We have different releases compared to those in the Northern Hemisphere but I do know that Independence Day 2 is out, and as a big fan of the first one, I think it has to be done.

(On a plus note it will probably be kid free too as they will all be off seeing Finding Dory, which is not one for me. I love Disney/Pixar but I did not understand the wonder of Finding Nemo at all.)

Bane of my existence – Winterwinter - chase the red grape

It’s not a ‘bad’ winter by any means here in Perth, but I’m just so over it now. Winter without Christmas is dull. Christmas always brings so much sparkle and delight in those darker months and we don’t have anything. Not even a public holiday until September!

TV Show – The West Wing

A chunk of the way through the penultimate series now… this programme just keeps on getting better and better. If you get the chance to watch it, please do. It is pure gold and the best thing I have watched in a very long time.

Mood – Happy and cosy

I’m writing which makes me happy and the library is super toasty warm. Win win!

Do you ever get that odd feeling after returning to a routine?

Are you a people watcher?

What is your favourite variety of tea?