The mental challenges of moving home #5TTT

Hi all,

This weekend I am moving apartments. Phew.

It’s such a demanding time, stressful and everything just seems like it’s never going to come together.

We all know how physically demanding moving can be. Packing, lifting, sorting, up and down stairs, cleaning, lack of sleep etc. But have you ever thought about the mental challenges of moving home?

For this weeks 5 top tips I want to share 5 ways in which moving can affect your mental game. Take care and don’t let it stress you out. (I am telling myself this right now!).moving home - chase the red grape

Letting go of a safe space

Your home is your sanctuary. It’s where you feel safe and calm. Moving, no matter what the circumstances, means that you have to break free from this space – it’s why most of us take so long to make the big leap of moving in the first place. Embrace what this space has given you – a home, cosiness, memories and let go. Holding on makes it very difficult for your new home to provide this sense of comfort.

Reviewing your belongings

Moving means packing. Packing means arranging and sorting, viewing and making decisions on all the belongings you have of old and new. Do I need this? Do I want this? What memory does this evoke? So many questions for what is already a stressful time. My go to question is ‘would someone else get more use out of this?’ – donating always makes me feel good. For more sentimental belongings I ask myself ‘would future Jen potentially regret letting go of this?’ If the answer is yes or there is a doubt I keep it.

Overwhelm of cost

For some of us, like me, moving becomes a source of anxiety because of the financial cost. Never mind the general cost of paying different rents, deposits, transferring letting agencies and the like, it’s the hidden/ forgetful costs that pile up for me. Transferring utilities and internet, van hire, cost of packing materials, mail redirection, even down to the endless coffees and take out meals that are inevitable over moving days. Big deep breath. For most of us, this is not a frequent occurrence. Sure your savings are going to take a hit, but make the best choices, source out the best deals and be happy in the notion that although inevitable, you did the best you could money wise.

Creating a new home

You’re in a blank space. Your whole world surrounds you in boxes and bags. What do you do now? How do you create that safe space? Oh, did you notice that when we first took a look around? I don’t know if I like that. Why didn’t I notice that? Sound familiar?

Another big breath. Safe, cosy, calm spaces come over time. They come when you find a home for all your little nick naks. Don’t rush it, let it develop.

Big changes and how they affect the rest of your world

Moving home is a big deal, whether it be moving down the road, to another city or to the other side of the world. When one big change happens you start to look at other aspects of your life in a different way. One big change spurs another. We become more confident, more pensive, more ambitious. Now whether or not other changes come to fruition or these thoughts just come and go, that’s up to you. But if you can move house, what else can you do if you want to?

And for me, all that is left is to move!

Due to this I will be taking some time off and will be back to let you know how we got on with a Friday Favourites on the 15th! Keep up to date with the move etc over on Instagram – yep I will be that person who insta-stories rather than packing!

And don’t forget to check out this weeks podcast which is released tomorrow (Wed 6th). The topic is body image and it’s one heck of a podcast episode. We both speak open and honestly about our experience and it’s definitely worth a listen if you want to feel great about who you are and how you can control how you view yourself. Or subscribe over on iTunes or Stitcher and you definitely won’t miss it!

When was the last time you moved home?

Do you find it easy to create a new safe space?

Have you ever made a change in another area of your life after moving home?5 top tips on a tuesday - chase the red grape

My first year in Australia – including video!

Hi all,

Can you believe it, Tuesday marked our one year anniversary of being in Perth Australia!

And what a year it has been! We have both been through an incredible journey and continue everyday to live our Aussie adventure. I love that I have been able to share this with you all, the ups and downs, the strange moments and the celebrations – there were times where I felt like writing my post was like writing a postcard to a friend back home.

Although the decision to leave for Australia felt 100% right for us, this does not mean it was easy. Saying goodbye to our friends and family felt strange – almost as if we couldn’t fully comprehend the fact that it was a BIG goodbye. I will always remember the day we left, travelling down from my home town to the airport in Glasgow (a 4 hour journey). The sunshine was glorious. The hills stood proud and the sea glistened as we drove past. Scotland couldn’t have looked any more beautiful. The feeling in my stomach was like no other I had felt before. I beamed with excitement, the adrenaline of adventure flowed through my veins. But there was a small hole there in my stomach – I was leaving my comfort. My home, my family, my friends for the unknown.flying - chase the red grape

And not just any unknown. The unknown on the other side of the world.

But it helps when you are with your partner. Your husband and best friend. The person you would follow to the moon and back. And he always keeps the adventure air - chase the red grape

So we set up home. Explored our area. Saw as much as we could and said yes to every invitation. We found the ‘must see and dos’, ‘hidden gems’, ‘local treasures’ and good eats. We found our favourite cafes, restaurants, beaches and walks. Knew where we liked to get our groceries from, where we could indulge in cold drip coffee and where we could feel at - chase the red grape

We found our community – an amazing CrossFit box who welcomed us with both arms.grandstand - chase the red grape

We had our first guests from home, my parents over Christmas and to share this wonderful place with them meant the world to me. Although I dare say that I will never ever get used to Christmas in the summer!parents - chase the red grape

We survived our first Aussie summer, just, and realised that yes it is crazy hot here 75% of the year. I love it!botanical party - chase the red grape

Travelling east in June was incredible and really brought home just how large Australia actually is! Melbourne was beautiful and so very different to Perth. It reminded me of central Europe and had a constant buzz to it.hozier lane - chase the red grape

July was our coldest month and yet we still managed to have our beach walks in glorious sunshine. I will never take the beach here for granted. Hundreds of miles of pure white sandy beaches, crystal blue water and silence…. it is my happy place.beach - chase the red grape

And we have celebrated both my birthday and wedding anniversary Perth style – it was different but since when has different been a bad thing eh?anniversary - chase the red grape

David started a special project the day we left for Australia – a one second a day video. Each day he filmed a one second video and linked them all together. Now we have the most amazing short video as a reminder of our first year here. And I want to share it all with you!

And to end, I just want to thank you all for being there. It was the biggest transition of my life but knowing you were all there behind me, wishing me well on my journey and encouraging my adventure meant the world.

Who knows what year two will hold, but I know it will be awesome!

Linking up with Amanda @RunningWithSpoons for Thinking Out Loud.

Have you ever left your comfort zone?

You move somewhere new, what would be the first place you would check out?

Where is your happy place?