5 simple tips on making life easier #5TTT

Hi all,

Some days are just tough, right? Some days we just feel like the rest of the world owns us and there is nothing we can do about it. Some days we just want things to be a little easier, whether we be tired, stressed, emotional, overwhelmed or even just bored.

Making life easier on yourself isn’t up to the Gods, it really is in your control.

I’m not talking about big massive changes (they do have a time and place). Today, I am talking about small, daily, even hourly changes you can make to how you are approaching your present life. Living in a moment that’s easy and fun!

Let’s make life easy and we can do it, together, right now, simply and without planning. 5 top tips on making life easier – let’s get to it!easier - chase the red grape

Prioritise

Look at the day ahead of you. Write down 5 things you MUST do. Put them in order of priority and get to it. If you finish the list then ask yourself the same thing again. If new tasks come up at work reassess your priority list but in order to make room for this, something else has to go. Remember also to add other important factors to your list like taking time out for lunch and leaving the office on time – they are always some of my priorities.

Knowing you are focussing on what needs to be done rather than a whole spiral of tasks allows you to accept your priorities. It may be hard to decipher at first but once you get into a routine it becomes easier.

Social media/ app purge

I’m not telling you to get off Facebook or Instagram, instead I am telling you to use some of that time to do a group/ friend/ like purge. Check out everyone and every business you follow. Do you really want to see all that information still? Delete those who you no longer wish to see stories/ updates from. Do the same with your apps. Do you actually use all those apps you have downloaded? Are they a bad distraction? You know what to do.

Get into nature/ move

Taking time out in nature, or simply moving may sound like another stress to add on to your day, especially if you are time poor. But just going out for a lunchtime walk or even moving about the office allows your body to relax, your brain to switch off, even if it is for 5 minutes. It allows you to come back and focus, to be clear in your mind. Chances are when you feel like a break is out of the question that is when you need it the most.

Focus on what you want

This is very similar to prioritising but this is the section where we take out the NEED and the MUST (words we often associate with work) and replace it with want. What do I want to get out of my day? Knowing you are hitting some of your wants allows you to feel more in control, more optimistic. It doesn’t have to be big, simply knowing you are coming home to a dinner that you want to eat or making time because you want to go to drawing class can make the whole day feel a little easier.

Sleep is your main goal today

You heard me. Sleep is your main goal today. Decide now when your bedtime will be and stick to it. Put an alarm on your phone 15 mins prior so you can get yourself ready for sleep. Sleep allows your body to fully rest and restore. Your body cannot thrive without it. The day you make sleep a priority in your life is the day you will instantly start to feel better and more energised. A good nights sleep really can make the rest of your day so much easier.

What do you do that helps make life easier?

Do you prioritise your day?

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How to maintain strong and healthy relationships #5TTT

Hi all,

Relationships, where would we be without them in our life? Our day to day, week to week interaction with the people around us help us to become who we are and how we act – they are one of the key pillars of a healthy life.

But do we nourish relationships the way we do other matters regarding our health such as diet and exercise? Do you give your partner, boss, colleagues, friends and family the same attention to detail?

This week on ‘5 top tips on a Tuesday’ I am bringing you some key points and questions to ask yourself regarding the relationships you have in your life. And how, with some small tweaks, you can make them strong and healthy for years to come.relationships - chase the red grape

Listen

The ability to listen and simply hear what is being said is one of life’s true gifts. Listening means being invested in what others are saying and keeping quiet, not giving advice or opinions unless asked for. We all can listen but are we really focusing on the words and their meaning?

It takes time to be a good listener and the first step is simply taking into account what you do in a conversation. Do you let others talk or are you always trying to be the one that speaks? Do you allow for silences to let others speak when they may feel hesitant? (For example in a business meeting).

Being a listener allows you to fully commit to understanding other people better.

Talk

Communication – it truly is a buzz word right now and for good reason! Has your boss ever told you that your team needs to communicate more or have you been frustrated by being put in a awkward situation as your partner never revealed their true feelings to you?

Your feelings and opinions matter. Let them count. How can others support you if they do not understand how you feel? Sometimes we need to be reminded to be the listener, and sometimes we need to do the talking in a relationship.

Be flexible

Relationships in life work when you apply a bit of give and take. Be prepared to be open. If you are listening and you don’t like what you are hearing, ask yourself ‘how will this affect me?’ ‘does it even relate to me?’ and ‘is this even worth a debate?’.

I, for example, know how much of a game changer it can be in a relationship when you put yourself in another’s shoes – ‘how do you think it would feel?’.

Tell the truth

Relationships are built on the truth and this solid foundation can steer them through even the toughest times. Telling the truth can hurt, hearing the truth can hurt but hiding it hurts even more. Keeping something inside can lead to so much stress – affecting the relationship in question but also other relationships around you. Whether big or small, honesty really is the best policy.

Realise the importance of the relationship

Is this relationship important to me? What is it’s role in my life? And does it nourish my own?

Those 3 questions are very important. It allows you to focus on how much time and effort should be given. Your partner – are they your main priority? Do you treat them as such? Your boss – do you need to communicate more? Do you understand one and other? Friendships – what do you gain from having these people in your life? Do you need to see each other more often?

Question your relationships – I have spent far too long trying to focus on friendships that I felt I ‘should’ maintain rather than ‘want’ to maintain. Life is too short for toxic friends. In doing this though I have also realised which ones nourish my world and I always make time for them.

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I really hope that this post just pops those few questions into your head whilst reviewing the relationships in your life. They, after all, what make life worth living 🙂

Who is the biggest relationship in your life?

Is ‘communication’ a buzzword in your line of work?

Have you ever had to let go of a ‘toxic’ friendship?